Posts tagged John F. Kennedy Jr
Posts tagged John F. Kennedy Jr
He was the world’s most eligible bachelor, the only son of our 35th President, with a world of possibility ahead.
She was the impossibly chic Calvin Klein fashion publicist, so beautiful that her close friend Daniel Pfeffer says, “No photograph ever did her justice.”
In Carolyn Bessette, hose closest to John F. Kennedy Jr. say, he finally met his match.
Still, she turned him down the first time he asked her out after meeting her at the Calvin Klein showroom in 1994. The first few times, in fact.
"She didn’t think he was serious," says their close friend Gustavo Paredes, son of Jackie’s personal assistant, Provi Paredes. "He couldn’t believe she turned him down. It had never happened before."
Flummoxed, he was. Discouraged, he was not.
Kennedy, who had just launched George, his political and pop culture magazine, ”kept figuring out a way to keep coming back to the showroom for more business meetings and more fittings,” says Paredes.
Their fairy-tale romance and suprise wedding on September 21, 1996, on Georgia’s Cumberland Island, was chronicled all over the world. Yet the fairy tale came to a tragic end on July 16, 1999, when the plane piloted by Kennedy, 38, carrying his wife, 33, and her sister, Lauren Bessette, 34, crashed off the coast of Martha’s Vineyard, killing all aboard.
Fifteen years later, their closest confidantes remember John, not as Camelot’s heir, but as a friend and colleague who liked to drink Rolling Rock and had begun to talk about starting a family.
Carolyn they remember as a girl who loved to tease John about his penchant for blondes and his lack of fashion sense.
"She thought he was a fashion mistake," says Gustavo Paredes.
"They were fiery," says Ariel Paredes, Gustavo’s daughter and a close friend of Carolyn’s. "They would love hard and they would fight hard but they were very much a couple."
Some of their closest confidantes share these and other stories in this week’s PEOPLE because they want John and Carolyn to be remembered as the warm and wonderful friends they loved.
"John was more famous than any celebrity but in a weird way, he was the simplest person," says Matt Berman, former creative director of George and author of a new book: JFK Jr., George & Me, excerpted in this week’s PEOPLE.
"The world saw them as this prince and princess, but they were the most real and engaging people I’ve ever known."
For more details and never-before-seen photos of John F. Kennedy Jr. and Carolyn Bessette, pick up this week’s issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands Friday
John Fitzgerald Kennedy, Jr. | 1960 - 1999
- "John was a shining light in our lives and in the lives of the nation and the world that first came to know him when he was a little boy. He was a devoted husband to Carolyn, a loving brother to Caroline and an amazing uncle to her children, a close and dear friend to his cousins and a beloved nephew to my sisters and me."
- Senator Edward M. Kennedy
New York Times bestselling author Christopher Andersen delivers another dramatic installment in the lives of the Kennedys, including new details about JFK Jr., his relationship with his mother, his many girlfriends, and the night of his tragic death.
At the heart of The Good Son (October 2014)is the most important relationship in JFK Jr.’s life: that with his mother, the beautiful and mysterious Jackie Kennedy Onassis. Andersen explores his reactions to his mother’s post-Dallas suicidal depression and growing dependence on prescription drugs (as well as men); how Jackie felt about the women in her son’s life, from Madonna and Sarah Jessica Parker, to Daryl Hannah and Carolyn Bessette, to his turbulent marriage; the senseless plane crash the took his life; the aftermath of shock, loss, grief, and confusion; and much more. Offering new insights into the intense, tender, often stormy relationship between this iconic mother and son, The Good Sonis a riveting, bittersweet biography for lovers of all things Kennedy.
In the new memoir JFK Jr., George, & Me, Matt Berman the co-founder of John F. Kennedy Jr.’s political pop-culture magazine George, reveals how Kennedy’s voice guides him from beyond the grave whenever he needs advice.
“What would John do? What would John say?” he asks himself in difficult situations. Here are six life lessons that other mere mortals can learn from the savvy, almost other-worldly John-John as outlined in Berman’s book.
1. Be mysterious
Don’t always talk to fill in awkward silences — Berman had a habit of running his mouth when he was nervous. “Don’t feel like you have to say something, Matt,” Kennedy told him.
“Be mysterious: let people wonder.” Berman tried the tactic with limited success when he coordinated a shoot with the formidable Barbra Streisand posing as seamstress Betsy Ross for the cover of George.
2. Don’t be pushy
Berman describes how Kennedy taught him to appear calm and cool during negotiations even when there was a lot to lose.
When a star was hesitant about appearing on the cover of George or wasn’t interested in Berman’s unconventional suggestions for the shoot, Kennedy would say: “Matt, call them back and tell them we understand, and ‘Maybe next time.’ ”
When he reminded Kennedy that they were behind schedule and didn’t have a backup plan for the cover, his boss assured him: “We’ll just hold onto our balls and see if they come around.” Berman says, “His rule was: ‘If you want an answer right now, the answer is “No.” If you wait, we’ll see.’ ”
3. Talk with your mouth full
JFK Jr. quickly made ordinary folk relax and forget his privileged upbringing by acting like “one of the people.” That meant casual table manners — chatting with his cheeks stuffed with food and stealing morsels from other people’s plates.
“I think Jackie taught him to be unspoiled, masculine and real,” writes Berman. “He could high-five a stranger on the subway, eat with his hands and slurp from your can of soda in a way that dispelled the image of a Little Lord Fauntleroy.”
4. Talk with the shyest person in the room
“It was hard to be intimidated by John,” writes Berman. “He had this informality about him that put people at ease. At a party, he’d find the shyest person in the room, go up to them and ask them something easy to answer. He would find a way to relate to whomever was standing in front of him.”
5. Show your appreciation
Instead of just Christmas bonuses, Kennedy and his wife, Carolyn Bessette, picked out personalized presents for every staff member at George. Recalls Berman: “We gathered in his [Kennedy’s] office as he gave a juicing machine to Jen, the vegetarian, [and] a Dunhill lighter to the English editor who smoked like a chimney.”
6. Have your own sense of style
When many of Jackie O’s belongings were being auctioned, Berman asked John-John, “What kind of stuff are you keeping? Don’t you want some cool painting for your loft like a Warhol or something?” Kennedy shook his head. “I don’t know,” he said. “A lot of it’s not really my taste. I kind of want to buy my own things.”
(Source: New York Post)
Beach fun: Very rare photos of both John F. Kennedy’s at Bailey’s Beach Club in Newport. A relaxed President Kennedy is wearing nothing but swim trunks - not unusual, but unusual to be photographed. The picture of toddler John John was taken a few years later, August 4, 1964.
As the creative editor of George, Matt Berman helped bring John F. Kennedy Jr.’s magazine to life, overcoming early challenges—including an elaborate cover shoot with Barbra Streisand for the November 1996 issue. In a preview from Vanity Fair’s June 2014 issue, which includes an adaptation from his new memoir, Berman recalls Streisand’s transformation into Betsy Ross.
When John and I went to Los Angeles to shoot Barbra Streisand, we were also shooting Drew Barrymore. John was going to join me for the Streisand shoot on Saturday. When we landed in L.A., the plan was for me to call Barbra’s assistant, Kim, and arrange a time to meet at Barbra’s house to discuss the details of the shoot.
RoseMarie and I had been dealing with Kim all week. She was difficult, but we held our tongues. I called at four P.M. to ask about meeting with Barbra. “She’s editing her movie and we can’t do it till later,” Kim told me. I called at six P.M. “She’s still working,” Kim snapped, with no apology for keeping us waiting. John called my room and asked, “Maestro, what’s going on?” I told him Barbra was editing and didn’t want us to go over yet. Finally, Kim called at seven P.M. “She’s ready.”
John and I got into our rented convertible and pulled onto the Pacific Coast Highway. I was silent as John drove. “What’s the matter?” John shouted into the wind. “I’m nervous,” I told him, and gave him a terrified look. “Relax, after a few minutes she’ll be like your aunt Barbra.”
We pulled up to the mammoth wooden gates of Barbra’s house. There didn’t seem to be a button for guests or an intercom box anywhere, so John got out of the car and shouted into the trees. “Hello? Anybody home?” We heard the click of a latch releasing, and the gate opened automatically.
Situated high on a cliff overlooking the Pacific, the house was huge and designed to feel like an idyllic American home, with picket fences, pointed gables, and bright-white clapboard siding. There was a meandering flagstone path leading to an arched front entrance, where I saw a tiny, pale figure in the doorway. Carolyn’s warning, “She’ll eat you alive,” echoed in my head. As we walked down the path, John whispered, “Remember, we have dinner plans at nine o’clock.” He wanted to be sure he didn’t get tied up all night. Funny Girl was leaning against the doorframe with her arms folded and a familiar, wry half-smile on her face. “John, what a young staff you have,” she said in her best Dolly Levi voice. She was wearing white cotton from head to toe: a pair of stretchy pants and a sort of Flashdance-style off-the-shoulder top. She was dewy and freshly moisturized, her hair artfully mussed. She appeared so perfectly casual that it must have taken some time to achieve the look. I had the feeling she hadn’t been editing a movie all afternoon.
There was no mistaking who was standing in front of us, but she seemed to be a miniature version of Barbra Streisand. Her eyes were cooler, foxlike and piercing, not those of the lovable, eye-rolling Fanny Brice I had been hoping for. She looked really good at 54 years old. John kissed her on the cheek and introduced me. After shaking hands and exchanging pleasantries, she offered us a tour of her house. She spoke in a dramatic way, emphasizing every syllable and punctuating occasionally with a Brooklyn-inflected “You know what I mean?”
The house was traditional in style but Hollywood in proportion. It was filled with Colonial-style antiques and folk art, with girlie touches here and there. There was an antique teddy bear sitting on a lace doily on a spooled rocker. She summed up her taste emphatically: “I just like American things.” Sunlight streamed into massive rooms packed with treasures. In the dining room she stopped and flashed a finger over her shoulder at a huge painting. “Hey, John, you know what that is? It’s a Hopper,” she said, strongly emphasizing the H.
I remembered some advice that John had given me about running off at the mouth when I was nervous. “Don’t feel like you have to say something, Matt. Be mysterious; let people wonder.” At this point, I was being extremely mysterious. Her maid brought us giant glass tumblers filled with soda and then put a plate with spring rolls on the counter. They were arranged in a circle, with dipping sauce in the middle. Barbra took one and nibbled at it, saying, “These are wonderful. I love them so much that my chef in New York FedExes them out here.”
After our snack we went into a formal living room, which had a sprawling pink carpet. “It’s beautiful,” I said. “It’s an Aubusson,” she replied quickly. Then John chimed in: “Yeah, it’s beautiful.” She gushed with meticulous detail about how it was silk and from France. She rattled off its dimensions and its age. We took a step forward. “Hey, hey, hey, guys!” Barbra exclaimed, lunging forward, hand outstretched. “Could you walk around it?”
“You want us to take our shoes off?” John asked.
She put two fingers to her lips and nodded up and down like a little girl. Now we each had an oversize glass tumbler in our hands and sock feet. The floor was slippery, and I was sure I was going to trip and ruin the Aubusson.
We followed her upstairs to the bedroom. It was flowery and covered in chintz. Piles of fancy pillows on the bed, a chaise longue by a huge window overlooking the ocean, and, like in every movie star’s house, a bureau cluttered with silver frames containing pictures of herself along with other famous faces. I spotted one that I really wanted John to see. It was a photo of Streisand shaking hands with President Kennedy. I worked up my courage and said, more to John than to her, “That’s a great photograph. Maybe we can use that on the editor’s-letter page.”
Barbra sniffed, “That is something very personal and important to me. I can’t have it printed in the magazine for the whole world to see.” I looked at John and mouthed, What a bitch. John, pushing his hands downward, signaled me to calm down.
Source: Vanity Fair
"John Kennedy Jr made his own stage with George. From the start Kennedy, who had no prior experience in magazine publishing, had a clear-cut vision of a personality- based political magazine. “Political magazines should look like Mirabella,” he told the New York Times in 1996. “They should look like Elle. They should look like really inviting, accessible, exuberant youthful magazines.”
JFK Jr: Rollerblade-guy
"He loved to travel across this city by subway, bicycle and Rollerblade. He lived as if he were unrecognizable — although he was known by everyone he encountered. He always introduced himself rather than take anything for granted. He drove his own car and flew his own plane, which is how he wanted it. He was king of his domain."
- Ted Kennedy about John Jr
By Nina Burleigh, New York Observer
Besides being the month of Thanksgiving, November is the month of the Dead Kennedy. It’s a time of remembering a day of blood and brains on a pink dress in Dallas, a portal into a black hole in the last half-century’s history.
For those of us born in and after the 1960s, who can’t literally recall the day of the assassination, the real figure from November 1963 haunting our childhood imaginations was a boy, our age, standing in short pants and saluting his father’s coffin.
John Kennedy Jr., who would be 53 years old now, was our Kennedy. The beautiful man known as John John, who grew up cavorting on the Cape and Skorpios with Jackie O, discoing in New York with Mick and Bianca and Andy, was a symbol of sex and privilege, his elitism so gracefully carried.
I met him on a few occasions when I wrote for his magazine George. His pet project was idealistic, and a bit ahead of its time. The magazine was first of all an extension of the Kennedy brand: substance, celebrity and just enough whimsy to appeal to those who had flipped the channel from the nightly news to MTV.
In person he was an easygoing thoroughbred, perfectly mannered, all varnished normalcy. Sitting beside him at lunch in a Washington bistro, you knew that he knew exactly which fork to use first, but he wasn’t going to make you feel bad for not unfolding the napkin properly, either.
Turning up at New York parties in the 1990s, he and his blond wife were luminous creatures, towering over everybody else, tall, sylphic and fair. Olympians.
In the 13 years since he died, I remember Kennedy whenever I exit the Franklin Street subway station by Bubby’s, the corner restaurant where the paps so often staked him out, across from the Tribeca loft he shared with his lovely, restless and unhappy bride until the day they died.
This month, though, I found myself thinking about him while driving west from the city at Thanksgiving, beneath the contrails of small jets and planes crisscrossing sky over Essex County Airport, the location from which he took off on a summer day in 1999.
Before the 2000 election and 9/11, that plane crash in the fog over the Cape was one of the tragic millennial plot twists. I’m not saying Kennedy would have been president or changed the course of history. But he was our generation’s Kennedy, possessed of that rare quality from another era called charm, who might have helped recharge the progressive politics that were his birthright. Maybe, just maybe, he would have shown the brutes in Washington how to be civil in an uncivilized age.
Our Kennedy was, like the rest of us, a self-indulgent underachiever, a little lost. He loved his Frisbee, and he flunked the bar exam a couple times. But his greatest underachievement was his untimely death. What he might have been—perhaps a senator or governor—we will never know.
JFK JR.’S DAD ENDURED A SECOND, reputational death with revelations about CIA plots and his seedy private life, the revolving door of women in and out of the White House, feeding the now-named sex addiction. The younger Kennedy didn’t want to see that. I wrote a book about one of the mistresses and I never wrote for his magazine or saw him again.
He protected his dad’s legend, surely, but the rest of us came to expect, if not to revel in, the failures of his storied clan, from the peccadilloes of Bobby and Teddy, to the lost souls of the next generation, the heroin addictions, the rape charges, the car crashes, and most recently, the divorce ending in suicide of Bobby Junior’s wife in Katonah.
As children of the 1960s, we grew up knowing better than to put our faith in great men and higher institutions—starting with Nixon’s resignation, the Church committee naming the dirty deeds done in service of our free enterprise around the world, the coups and assassinations, drug experiments, the dirty wars.
Born at the end of the Baby Boom, we were cowed into learned helplessness by black ops and nuclear Armageddon and by easy drugs and cheap gas, too young to protest, too high to care. We partied because tomorrow might never come, pretty sure we were the final generation before nuclear Armageddon. We had no clue that a different sort of Armageddon was underway, slow, painless and invisible, until the streets of Detroit turned into apocalyptic movie sets and our ponds stopped freezing in winter.
In their book, That Used to Be Us, Thomas Friedman and Michael Mandelbaum lay out the statistical decline that’s occurred on our generation’s watch.
Thirty years ago, 10 percent of California’s general revenue fund went to higher education and 3 percent to prisons. Today nearly 11 percent goes to prisons and 8 percent to higher education.
The shameless abandonment of all communitarian impulse that lay behind the Reagan era wealth shift happened on our watch: the top 1 percent now holds 40 percent of the wealth. Twenty-five years ago, the top 12 percent held 33 percent of the wealth.
The truest measure of our generation’s decline is in the kids of a gutted middle class. The descendants of Greatest Generation are fat, diabetic, meth-addicted sloths who couldn’t make it through basic training if they were so inclined. “Seventy-five percent of young Americans, between the ages of 17 to 24,” Messrs. Friedman and Mandelbaum wrote, “are unable to enlist in the military today because they have failed to graduate from high school, have a criminal record or are physically unfit.”
The authors blame outside forces: globalization, the revolution in information technology, the nation’s chronic deficits and its pattern of energy consumption.
But we know better. We know that the decline started inside of us. Like Kennedy—our best and brightest—our own squandered potential comes from the don’t-give-a-shit decades of our extended youth, from the classes we cut in college to smoke dope and play Ultimate, from the planet we heated with the fumes from so many cross country road trips, and from the island of plastic in the Pacific we would make with our limitless intake of bottled water and supersized soda.
Frank DiGiacomo, in a July 1999 obit for John Jr he wrote, tried to describe what Junior’s death meant for his peers. Mr. DiGiacomo didn’t know that it was one dispiriting tragedy preceding so much worse—the imminent disastrous election of 2000 and the falling of the World Trade towers.
But he sensed something dark coming, as we all did.
“We’re all older now,” Mr. DiGiacomo wrote. “And somehow, New York’s 21st century seems a little colder and more distant knowing that John Kennedy—who was supposed to be in our future, who may be irreplaceable in our lives—is contained forever, back here with our youth, in his father’s century, the 20th.”
John John died just as he was getting his act together at age 38—belatedly, like the rest of us, getting less diffident, gaining hope, finding a purpose. He would have been gray around the temples by now and, who knows, maybe living up to his birthright and promise as another desperately needed, persuasive voice for progressive ideals in Albany or D.C.
We, his peers, forge into middle age and these troubled times that none of us foresaw or, it must be admitted, would or could have tried to prevent.
RIP to our misspent youth, and to the very symbol of its lost promise, the boy saluting death, forever.
By Michael Gross
Originally published in the March 20, 1989 issue of New York Magazine
It was madness, even by Bloomingdale’s standards. The customers that late-November lunchtime were possessed by an urgency that transcended mere pre-Christmas shopping lust. Suddenly, TV lights came on and cameras started snapping like piranhas as the day’s hottest item, John Fitzgerald Kennedy Jr., the son of America’s thirty-fifth president, stepped onto a platform. Women screamed.
“It was mass hysteria,” one store worker says. “Poor man. I don’t think he had any idea.” Kennedy looked amazed and none too happy. “Oh, dear,” he said as he joined cousins Ted Kennedy Jr. and Willie Smith, Willie’s mother, Jean Kennedy Smith, and Lauren Bacall on the store’s loge level.
Very Special Arts, a Kennedy charity, was behind this sale of boxed Christmas ornaments produced by the retarded in Third World countries. But the TV crews and the screaming women and the pushing paparazzi didn’t care about that. They didn’t care about Betty Bacall, either, or the other Kennedy cousins — all associate trustees of the Joseph P. Kennedy Foundation who had funded the program. Says the Bloomingdale’s employee, “They wanted John.”
Kennedy took the microphone. “I hope you’ll all buy a few boxes,” he said. “I’m here to sell boxes, and that’s what I want to get to do.” Of course, by doing that-or, more precisely, by autographing boxes for a few minutes-he got the ornaments mentioned on seven local news shows and Entertainment Tonight. Jill Rapaport, a perky Channel 2 News reporter, even got a brief interview. “It’s really the boxes they should be coming for, not us,” Kennedy told her. Then he got boxed in himself as Rapaport asked how it felt to be one of the world’s most eligible bachelors. “C’mon,” Kennedy pleaded, eyes and hands turning upward. “1 dunno.” He glanced away from the microphone hopelessly. Finally, visibly embarrassed, he said, “It feels okay.” Cut to Rapaport happy-talking in the studio later. “Kinda cute, huh?” she said to the camera.
Although Bloomingdale’s sold almost $50,000 worth of ornaments that day, John Kennedy, 28, considered the appearance disappointing. “We didn’t want it to turn out the way it did,” says Kathy Walther, a Very Special Arts executive. “It was very obnoxious from the second he walked in. John hoped it would be more substantive.”
Unfortunately, substance isn’t ‘the first thing that comes to mind when most people think about John F. Kennedy Jr. First, of course, comes the awful, indelible memory of the little boy in a blue coat and short pants, saluting his father’s bronze coffin.
That image alternates with others not so sober: Kennedy pumped-up and shirtless as People magazine’s “Sexiest Man Alive.” Kennedy linked in the columns with an enviable parade-Brooke Shields, Madonna, Daryl Hannah, Molly Ringwald, Princess Stephanie of Monaco.
Those images melded at his political coming-out party, last summer’s Democratic Convention-where John F. Kennedy Jr., tabloid celebrity, was transformed into the living embodiment of a nation’s not-quite-impossible dream: that it will wake up one morning with another JFK in the White House. Uncle Ted Kennedy passed the torch himself when he had John introduce him to the delegates, and though the nephew’s speech didn’t rattle the rafters, there was a surge of emotion in the hall. This was the first time John had ever acted the part of “a Kennedy” on a national stage. And the moment suggested that he could become the ultimate postmodern politician-a blank canvas for fantasies of national destiny.
The boy in the blue coat is grown up now, and, whether he likes it or not, people still have their eyes on him. He doesn’t like it at all, and friends insist that his life is a quest for anonymity and normality. He may never find privacy (“He’s never known life any different,” says a friend), but he’s won the battle to be normal. Aggressively normal. “Disgustingly normal,” says a friend.
He is also understandably reluctant to give anything away, having already given so much. Kennedy “is trying to have an open life,” says Faith Stevelman, who met him on their second day of law school, in 1986. “He sure turned out to be completely different than I expected. The press makes him out to be a narcissistic celebrity brat, but he’s not. People want to see him that way, because of his father, because of his name, because he’s handsome, but-praise to him-he has a life that’s much more real than that. He likes being in the world.”
He doesn’t like publicity, though. “It curtails his freedom,” Stevelman says.
So, aside from lending his name to good causes, he’s done nothing to attract attention to himself. He’s given only one print interview in his life, to the New York Times, and it wasn’t particularly revealing. Not speaking to reporters “has always been a habit,” says his aunt Lee Radziwill. “We’re not going to start now.”
One former family intimate describes the Kennedy attitude as “a conspiracy of silence, mandated from above. But when they want to get the message out, they do.” John Kennedy declined to be interviewed for this story. But there’s a message his friends want to get out, so many of them cooperated, as did former coworkers and bosses and a few Kennedy-family members.
They are setting the stage for what a Kennedy Foundation executive describes as “John emerging into the public sphere.” After having worked for New York City, a nonprofit developer, the Reagan Justice Department, and apolitically connected Los Angeles law firm, the man who is perhaps the most famous presidential child of the century is about to become one of about 400 assistant district attorneys in the office of Manhattan prosecutor Robert Morgenthau.
Like a favored candidate’s spin doctors before a big debate, Kennedy’s friends are trying to lower expectations. “The most extraordinary thing about him is that he’s extraordinarily ordinary,” says one.
Public appearances to the contrary, friends seem convinced, and want to convince others, that John Fitzgerald Kennedy Jr. — JFK II — doesn’t really exist. “He wants to be perceived as his own man,” says Peter Allen, a friend since grade school. Says Stevelman heatedly, “He’s not John F. Kennedy Jr. He is himself. It’s `Hi, I’m John.’ ” Just John.
Three generations of charm: John F. Kennedy, John F. Kennedy, Jr. and Jack Schlossberg around the same age, 20.